Being in Harmony with Yourself: Thank You for Being with Me!

Hellinger said, "When I align with my own soul, I gain the strength to help others." But how do I achieve this alignment? The process involves looking towards my parents.  My grandparents gave life to my parents, who then passed it on to me. Whatever they received from their parents, they passed on to me fully, without diminishment. I look to my parents and say, "I accept the gift of life you have given me, just as it is." By looking at my parents in this way, I can accept the entirety of my life. This acceptance is the primary condition for aligning with my own soul.

When I fully accept my life, I can see everything as a gift from my parents and accept it. I embrace every aspect of my life, without rejecting any part of it. All the difficulties I've faced in the past or continue to struggle with now, I accept and connect with them. I can only truly connect with life's richness and depth when I accept everything. Imagine if our parents became the ideal, perfect parents we envision. What could we receive from them then? More or less? For me, it would be less. By accepting my parents as they are and deeply connecting with them, my soul expands. Even if some aspects of what I receive cause me trouble, by integrating with them, they become treasures that empower me.

I then look further back to my ancestors and often practice this: I see all my ancestors, including those who passed away long ago and are nearly forgotten. I say to them, "I am Bert." I look at them and let them look at me, thereby creating a connection that expands my soul. Regardless of their fates, I integrate with them. When I do this, I become strong; their past destinies become rich and sweet in my hands. Thus, whenever someone seeks my help, the destiny of my ancestors provides significant assistance. When I unite with my ancestors, I also align with my destiny on a grander scale. There is no such thing as good or bad fate; fate itself is great and equal, especially when we don't see it as belonging exclusively to someone but try to understand how it affects a person. This understanding reveals the nature of fate. Fate doesn't end with death. When we align with an ancestor's fate and include their death, their great and powerful fate continues to operate through me, flowing into my interactions with others. In this way, ancestors assist me.

Extracted from “Rising in Love” by Bert Hellinger