How Do You Fill the Void in Your Heart?

Do you have friends who are shopaholics? Or perhaps you are one yourself? Have you ever blamed your partner for being a workaholic? Do you have friends or relatives who are heavy drinkers? Are you troubled by your child's internet addiction? Behaviors like shopping addiction, work addiction, alcohol abuse, and internet addiction are common forms of addiction. Other addictive behaviors include smoking and gambling. Often, these addictions are not truly enjoyed by the person; instead, they are driven by an inexplicable force beyond their control. We often do not understand these addictive behaviors and may even criticize them harshly. However, through the lens of systemic constellation, we surprisingly discover that these individuals are merely using different means to fill a void within their hearts. This void is often due to the absence of a father figure. It could also stem from the early death of a family member, a sibling/child who died young, or a child lost to abortion. These family members are often forgotten, excluded, or unacknowledged. Compared to women, men tend to exhibit more addictive behaviors, and these behaviors are often more varied. Often, these addictions are symptoms of a lack of masculine strength within the family. So, how can we fill this void in a way that leads towards positive behaviors and directions? For these excluded family members, we need to recognize, respect, and reconnect with them; do more things to honor them, do more good deeds in their name. This will help us fill the void in a better way. Additionally, physical contact with family members is a great way to establish connections. Hugs, in particular, have incredible healing power. Individuals who were separated from their parents during childhood or frequently beaten by them often fear separation and harbor deep resentment or fear towards their parents. Deep down, they long to be close to their parents and crave their embrace. In the workshop this time round, Teacher Chou used a special method to help participants break through barriers. They shouted "Dad, Mom" while running towards their parents, eventually finding warmth and safety in their parents' tight embrace. Filling the void in our hearts is a reflection of the holistic principles of systemic constellation. Everyone within our family system, regardless of their fate or what has happened to them, deserves our acceptance and respect. We must hold a place for them in our hearts. These places fill the void within us.

32nd Workshop